If anyone ever asks me what the most surprising thing that ever happened to me is... I have two answers. The first was getting a divorce. That will be the socially acceptable answer. The second answer is finding myself in an open relationship -- WHAT?!
The net effect of my discussion with Deity regarding the state of our relationship is that he and I will be seeing other people, dating the ones that interest us, and sleeping with them if it's something that seems interesting and worth pursuing. For now, given the distance between us, and his lack of time, it seems the best fit. When he and I can get together, we will. There are no promises, and no guarantees, and maybe he will fall in love with someone else and I will be sad. But who knows? In a perfect world, he moves into the house next door.
Related to that - I suck at being platonic with Dancer. We know that there is no "long-term" for us. He is still hurting from his own divorce, and deeply in love with work. I know that he can not meet my emotional needs. The physical ones though? Yes! More! Yes! We are really good at getting each other off. A large part of me is highly tempted to write erotic essays based on the things I've done with that man. I begin to understand in a very visceral way the truth of not being able to quit something. Fortunately (or unfortunately?) that decision will be made for me when he moves to a more temperate climate. The one I live in isn't suited to his long-term happiness.
Anyway... open relationship with Deity continues. Physical relationship with Dancer started again (if a 3 week "break" counts). Dating profile re-activated. And... we'll see what happens.
It actually sounds like a logical solution to a long distance relationship to me. There's nothing worse than being in a triangle where you are in love with them both, you know?
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